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So today I want to talk about why men cheat. But more important why do people cheat in general. At first I was very hesitate to Blog on this subject because it’s a very touchy subject but I will attempt to provide some light on the subject. I first would like to start off by saying nothing that I say in my Blogs is of me. I use what I have been taught by The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan and try to expand on what he teaches us and use it to give us advice on our everyday issues and problems. But at the same time if you are reading this and you are from my Christian family don’t stop reading this thinking that these teachings cannot also benefit you. The teachings of The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad are universal teachings that can resurrect the mind of any and every person Muslim, Christian, Hillel, Atheist, Black, Latino, Asian, or white. So I just wanted to let that be known before I start this Blog.
I don’t promise to give the perfect solution for this problem but I will provide insight that will allow us to think deeper then the surface. So why do people cheat? Let’s define cheating. Cheating is defined as to deceive by trickery; swindle; to deprive by trickery; defraud; to mislead; fool; to elude; escape. So when looking at these definitions it was easy to relate cheating in a relationship with deceiving, trickery, and misleading, but not elude. So I asked myself what are you trying to elude when you cheat in a relationship and also why? When I was younger I cheated on test to elude a failing grade. I also cheated in games to elude losing. But ultimately I cheated because I didn’t know how to pass or win. Could it be that we cheat in relationships because we don’t know how to have a successful one.
Let’s think about it for a second. When we first get into a relationship its fun, exciting, heart throbbing and just amazing. We can talk all day and night on the phone. We are always around each other. You laugh at every joke. But over time that slowly fades away. But if you notice that excitement come up with the new person they are with. We cheat the hard work of making and keeping that person in love with you just as they were when you first met them. But the real issue is we honestly don’t know how to have a relationship. We have no idea why we even what to be in a relationship. Which mean that most of our relationships are purposeless and anything that has no purpose is bound to fail.
So the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan said that we have never been taught the science of mating. When most of us hear this it may sound like I am comparing us to animals but let’s break down the definition to these words.
Science is defined as knowledge covering general truths or the operation of general laws especially as obtained and tested through the scientific method. A mate is defined as associate, companion; an assistant to a more skilled worker; helper. Mating is defined as; to join or fit together; couple; to join together as mates; to provide a mate for.
So when he says that we have never been taught the science of mating he is saying that we have never been taught the knowledge covering general truths of what a mate an associate, companion, or helper is. And we have never been taught the operation of general laws especially as obtained and tested through the scientific method how to join together with that companion or helper.
So the other day I was talking to a sister and she asked me should she get into a relationship with a guy and she was asking what I thought about him and I said I think he is a great brother ,But what is the purpose of you getting into a relationship. She asked me what did I mean I said what is your purpose for getting into a relationship with the brother. She said she had never thought about it. Why did I ask her that? Because everything that that we do has a why and that why sets a function for the action and the function provides expectations for the action.
Have you ever got into a car and just started driving for no reason? Have you ever started doing anything for no reason? No. everything you do has a purpose it has a why and that’s how you define the expectations of your actions. So right now I’m in college because I except to get a degree. I exercise because I want to be healthy. What if I took classes all year with no purpose? I would probably take classes that didn’t match , get tired of spending money on classes, start failing classed, and would eventually drop out. What if we get into a relationship with no purpose? We could be spending years with the wrong mate, then we would get tired of spending that time, start failing in the relationship, and eventually end up breaking up.
Let’s be honest most of us never had the birds and the bees talk. We learned about relationships from TV and movies. We learned from our friends who learned from their older brother. Ok maybe you watch that sex education video in school but how help was it in explain how to pick a mate. We was never taught the science of mating so even as grown men and women we have no idea on how to choose a mate so we find ourselves emotionally suffering.
This world uses movies, music, etc to stimulate a chemical in our body that causes us to desire the natural beauty of the woman and the nature beauty of the man. And they instill in us a false idea of what relationships should be like at a very young age. So you can see little girls and boys saying that my boyfriend and that’s my girlfriend but they have no idea the purpose of a mate.
And they grow up with no guidance or correction beside the music, the videos, and the movies. And they begin to think that because I am a boy I am suppose to get a girl and have sex with her. So you have 4 and 5 years children singing birthday sex. Because we have never been taught the science of mating most of us choose our mate based on sex only following our lower desires. Think about it for a second. How do you choose your girlfriend brothers? Do you think about if she is would be a good mother for your children, does she fit and support your life goals, or do you choose her because she looks good, because she has a big butt, and she has sex appeal.
Sisters do you pick a brother because you think he would be a good father to your children, will he be a good provider and maintainer for your children, does he have goals and dreams or do you pick him based off of his looks, popularity, or how he dresses, or the car he has . A sister said to me once why do I have to think that far I’m just looking for something right now. We call it dating. But we have to think that far because if you are not looking that far then your relationship has no purpose it has no why. Sex is not the purpose or why of your relationship. But that’s the only thing we think about. And the reason why our relationships don’t last is because you don’t have a why that is compatible to Gods why?
Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? We cheat because we don’t know our role as a man or woman in the relationship and we are failing every test, every trial, and every obstacle that comes our way and it makes our lives miserable so we cheat by finding a new person who will have the passion as the first mate did in the beginning. But winners never cheat and cheater never win so all that happen is you have more problems than you had before.
The problem starts off with the men. I’m sorry brothers but the Quran say that men are the maintainers of women not the other way around so if somebody has to be blamed it has to be us. We have to have more respect for our women.
The first thing we need to establish is that there is “No such thing as a No good women except the no good man that made her that way” THEM. The brothers are thinking that’s a lie I know a girl right now that’s bust down, runner, and other names. I’m sorry I had to use those words sisters don’t be offended but that’s how we talk sometimes. But the question I want to ask the brothers is was she born like that?
Our little girls are abandoned from birth. 62% of black families are headed by single mothers, and in this population we have more women than men, So more than likely our girls grow up without a father. She grows up without a father and from birth that little girl begins searching for the love and attention of a male because she lacks it growing up. When she hits prubity she starts to realize as her body begins to change that if she wears certain clothes if brings out certain attributes that boys and men will begin to pay a little more attention to. So go to an 8th grade class and pay attention to the girls. Their walk begins to change their posture begins to change and if you ever hang around older folks they will say something like this.
“Look at that lil girl being fast…. In all them men faces…”
And she will act like that because she is longing for a man’s attention and love because she has never received it.
Secondly our little girls are raped. I can’t tell you how many girls I talked to that have been molested when they were little. Remember 62% of black families are headed by single mothers. So there is no man to protect the girls from strange men. These mothers have men come to their house and will touch, fondle, or molested their daughters. Don’t believe me ¼ women will be raped before they hit 18.
These girls who have been raped have real emotional issues. Most of them suffer from extreme low self esteem they believe that it was their fault they got raped. They believe that the only way men will love them is if they have sex with them. So these girls are looking for love too.
How did we get to this point of being so savage? The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad said the 9/10 of the problems in black communities come from slavery so that’s one of the reason why. I know you probable like here he goes talking about slavery again but it’s the truth and it has to be said.
Have you ever read the Willie lynch letter? Well in the letter it says this:
Take the meanest and most restless nigger, strip him of his clothes in front of the remaining male niggers, the female, and the nigger infant, tar and feather him, tie each leg to a different horse faced in opposite directions, set him afire and beat both horses to pull him apart in front of the remaining niggers. The next step is to take a bullwhip and beat the remaining nigger males to the point of death, in front of the female and the infant. Don’t kill him, but PUT THE FEAR OF GOD IN HIM, for he can be useful for future breeding.
Why would the slave master make the women and infants watch? Women naturally look to their man for protection. Not any man but their man. She feels safe and secure in his presence. As a child we feel like our father can take anybody. He is our protector. You feel safe around him. For those of us you didn’t grow up with a father maybe it was an older brother. But when that male image is destroyed what happens is that woman has to begin to adapt to the current condition and she becomes strong. But the problem is that she raises her children that same way because she is afraid for her sons. And the results are strong and independent woman and a weak and dependent male.
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Now at the same time this is happening because there is no protection for our women she is in the hands of the slave master. She has no rights. She couldn’t say no. she couldn’t say I don’t like you. She couldn’t say there is no love between us. He used her and breeded her like she was a dog or a horse. This was to break down her morals and break down our morals for her. So they called slave women broad, jizza bells, b words, and they use to say that all black women are over sexual and are whores and Promiscuous by nature.
They used us brothers a nothing more than sex driven animals and breeders. And he indoctrinated us with the same image of our woman that he had. That she was nothing more than a sex object.
So The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan said this “Now what did this do to us? Have we out grown the effect of this? NO, we are this same man and woman. I don’t care how we dress. The black man is doing the same thing today that was done in slavery. You love to have her. You love to make her pregnant. But you don’t love the responsibility of supporting what you make.”
So today we have men who are weak, dependent, over sexed animals. Making baby and continuing the cycle.
Am I telling truth?
We were never taught the science of mating we were trained to mate. You want to know why men cheat? Men cheat because we have been trained to follow nothing but their lower desire. That brother doesn’t care what’s on your mind. And sisters even though you act like you want him to care about what’s on your mind you dress to attract his lower desires. And when the next best things walks by him and he takes a glance you get mad. Did you really think he wouldn’t look? Seeing as though that how you got him. We have a sickness. The slave master is still controlling our mind.
So let’s bring it up to modern times. I started off with showing how there is no such thing as a no good woman except the no good man that made her that way. Most of our sisters are looking for love. This is why for us brothers who have ever taken a sister virginity before she opens herself up to you what question does she ask?
Do you love me?
You say yes because by this time it’s more blood in your head below then head up top.
She doesn’t offer herself to you because she wants to have sex. It hurts her the first couple times she only give herself to you because she thinks that is what will keep you loving her.
This is why girls become over sexual because we don’t even pay attention to the good girl. The sister that is chaste and waiting until marriage. The sister that covers herself up. And dress moderately. The sister that’s not at the club. Not getting down on the floor. We ignore her and you give all you attention to the sister that that walking around in the short shorts, in the spandex pants, and the sister getting down at the party.
And Sisters pay attention to that. They say ok the only way a get some attention from him is if I look like that. So they go to the store. By pants that are too tight. Even though it may cause problems in the long run, put on the stilettos that give you back problems, buy the shirt that shows the most cleavage. Then she gets dressed and looks in the mirror says this is what will get him. And she walks out into the world looking like a prostitute selling her body for attention, affection, and love.
Now if sisters are offended by what I just said I’m sorry but it’s the truth and somebody has to say it because every year it’s getting worse. The Minster said that the average woman at the club today looks like a prostitute of yesterday. And it really hurts my heart to see my sisters like that.
But this is the conclusion to this Blog we cheat because we have never been taught. The only way to pass is to go study how God would want us to have relations if we go any other way we will fail every time. Sisters please after reading this decided today to start respecting yourself. Don’t sleep with a man because of what he says. Don’t make him your boyfriend if you don’t have a defined purpose other than you feel lonely. And brothers start respecting women. Control your lower desires. Chose a woman for her mind and not her behind. And remember a nation can raise no higher then its woman. So the longer she is disrespected the longer we will suffer.
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). Everything that you have ever gotten, that was worthwhile, you had to work for. Well in waiting on your blessing from God he never said that it was going to be easy and he just said that it would come. In the book of Job God takes everything from him. His Children, crops, cattle, and even his friends and wife call him crazy but through it all he keeps his love for God and he get Blessed with twice as much as was taken from him. So in moving into the spirit of expectation you must come to a realization that struggle is predestined for us. 
