Everyday is My Glory Day

I can hear the Music from down the street. The smell of BBQ hits my nose as I pull up. Who is that I see? That’s Cuz I haven’t seen him in a while. I Walk in and give my mama a hug and a kiss. Can’t forget my aunt she 70 but still looks good. Where am I at? The family BBQ/outing of course. I see my uncle dancing because he thinks he still got “it” (Whatever that means). I make my way back to the “grown Folks” section where the spades/dominoes table and corona bottles are. I can hear my Uncle from a mile away shouting at the top of his lungs “Gimme dat book” as he slaps the table with a card, looks like he cut my brothers heart with a jack of spade. The excitement of the moment is not only fuel by the intoxication of the coronas in his system but also the thrill of being a winning again. This reminds him of the Glory days, Oooh the Glory Days. We remember the glory days when inspiration, innovation, aspiration, motivation, and imagination stretched as far as the eye could see.

Tales of the Glory days flood the ears with phrases like “remember when” and “those were the days” and the old school jams add more fuel to the Moment. You can hear a chant from the “Grown folks” section that’s says “That’s my Song!!!” Reminding them of their high school homecoming, first love, first kiss, and a time period in their life when they were for the most part Happy. After that song goes off the DJ (who is nothing more then the person standing closest to the radio) is bombarded with song request. As day fades to evening and R. Kelly fades to Ron Isley (you know steppers only) what started of as a joyous day with chants of excitement and fun is now ending as a gloomy night with sighs/cries of “if only I would have” and “if only I could have” because  reality has set in. they were once  filled with hopes, dreams, an happiness but because of a dead end job, relationship, car, house, and the only thing that is really going up are bills  we have become part takers in a life of  Doubt, contentment, and despair.

I have been to many families BBQ’s like this one, not just my own, and the same thing happens every time. I always wonder don’t these people know that Life is not over and it’s not the end of the race. We have become a world of regrets and shoulda/coulda/wouldas but today that comes to an end. I want to show us that you no longer have to be victims of your current reality. We are the masters of our conditions our conditions are not the masters of us. So you say easy said than done Bryant. Well I never said that it was going to be easy I just said that it would be worth it.  In this but call 30 by 30, I believe that’s the name, someone said (not an exact quote) how can you be strong enough to endure the pain of your condition/situation, but too weak to change your condition/situation. So yes changing is hard but would you rather struggle for a short while to get what you want or suffer an entire life time because you don’t have what you need.

So if you’re serious I have 7 easy steps to get your life right back on track and become the man/woman you dreamed of. The steps are Change your thoughts, Recognize your mistakes, Understand your Mistakes, Forgive your mistakes, Reconcile, Learn to love Yourself again, and Establish a perfect union with God.

The very first step is changing your thoughts. The body can only physically produce what he mind can mentally conceive. This process is more mental then physical. You have to get in your mind that you will change your life situation. If you have a hard time believing wake up every morning and do affirmations. Tell yourself you deserve better, will have better, and will do better. Set dates for when you want to have this stuff done. You want a new job? Set a date for when you will have one by. You say Bryant I’ve been looking” you have but you haven’t been believing. You have to come to the realization that nobody is going to save you from your condition but you. A hero lies in YOU but you just have to wake him up. I think that’s a Mariah Carey song, a hero lies in you. Your thoughts produce your reality. They use to say in school attitude determines altitude. Your thoughts mean everything.  They bring into existence every thing that’s in your life. That’s why if you can’t see yourself changing then it won’t happen. Everything you have every done in life, whether small or big, you saw yourself doing it. Even when you make plans for the day you picture it in your mind first. You may say okay going to wake up, get dressed, go to the store, buy some shoes, then get me something to eat, but as you plan it you picture it in fact when you just read my writing you probably pictured it. So thinking believing. Change your thoughts.

The second step is to recognize your mistakes. Determine and figure out exactly where your life took a turn for the worst and the decisions that made it. They say that denial is the first step well you have to come to realize where your mistakes were made and stop denying that you made them. Whenever someone can’t recognize where they make a mistake they usually continue to make that mistake over and over again. The definition of Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. So unless you are insane I suggest you recognize and learn from your mistakes.

The third step is to understand your mistake. Just pointing out an event or circumstance in your life is not enough. You have to understand why that mistake was made. What situations, series of events, and circumstances gave birth to that mistake? We all know somebody who hasn’t learned from their mistakes. That girl who every boyfriend she has ever had treats her bad, that guy who saying in trouble with the law, or that friend that always says to you “ its going to be different this time” and you scratch your head and wait on the punch line because clearly they must be joking. These are the signs of people who do not understand their mistake and ultimately can never change their current situations.

The fourth step is forgiving yourself. I know many people who beat themselves up on past mistakes. Once you recognized your mistake and learned from it move on! Every one makes mistakes but once you learn from it it’s no longer a mistake it becomes Experience Lol. Hmmm? That’s sound a lot better doesn’t it? You didn’t make a lot of mistakes in life you just have a lot of experience. Think about it for a second. When a scientist fails at an experiment does he/she call it a mistake? No! He/she says that didn’t get the results they wanted but now they have more data to conduct a better experiment next time. Well life is nothing more than one big experiment and sometimes we experiment and don’t get the results that we want but if we learn from those mistakes then we will eventually get exactly what we want out of life. So forgive yourself and let’s move on with life.

The fifth step is to reconcile. If while in the process of gaining experience in life you hurt, physically or emotionally, a second or third party its time to go reconcile your  differences with them and ask for forgiveness. Take them through the same steps that you went through to have them forgive you. Help them recognize the mistake, understand the mistake, forgive the mistake, and ultimately forgive you. This will not only help them but it will help you too because we all know that if you have wronged someone in your life it bothers you like a torn in your side. So help them forgive you and reconcile.

The sixth step is the most important step. This is all about learning to love yourself all over again. When your mistakes torment in life it’s like walking around with a rain cloud over your head but now you can see the sun, smell the flowers, and hear the birds sing. You have to get in touch with the child in you and allow you imagination to flow and again. When you were 12 how did you think life would be a (?) years old. What would it look like (get a good picture), what would it feel like (reach out and touch it), what would it sound like (turn the volume up), what would it taste like (stick you tongue out and taste it) what would it smell like (Fresh like Bread out the oven or sweet like flowers freshly picked). I want you to get a really good picture because now is the time when the days of your mistake tormenting you are over. This is the time where you reactivate your inspiration, innovation, aspiration, motivation, and imagination that stretches as far as the eye could see. This is the time where dreaming no longer only takes place while you sleep.

And the final step is perfect union with God. This is going to be a tough journey and in order to be successful on this journey you are going to need the support and backing of God because you can achieve anything/everything with him and nothing with out him. With out the last two steps the process won’t work.

For those of you who are Followers of The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan you may have realized that my step are nothing more than the steps given to us by The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan during the Million Man March of 1995 on how to atone with God. But it’s relevant here too. It wouldn’t be right for me to Copy what he said and at least not give credit where credit is due.

If you don’t take anything from this blog remember this. No one can change their beginning or where they came from but anyone can change their path to have a new ending. You can’t change your parents, siblings, or family. You can’t change the way you grew up and what happen to you in the past. You can’t change the mistake that you made in the past and you never get back yesterday but you can always plan for tomorrow to make it a better day.

I personally want to live everyday like its my Glory Day.

So as I sit at my family BBQ and enjoy my food, listen to my music, enjoy the moment I wonder who will be strong enough to change their life or who will be strong enough to endure their struggle.

Peace

Bryant

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So I was listening to the radio and I heard a Lady on a gospel show say some words about moving into the spirit of expectation. She said that when a woman is Pregnant we say that she is expecting. Her point was even though the baby is not currently there we know that it’s coming, and that’s how our faith should be with God. I said WOW!! That’s deep I’m going to take it a little deeper for us though. Check this out!!  All while that woman is pregnant she is preparing to have her child. She goes to the doctor regularly; she makes sure she eats the right foods; she abstains from things that may be harmful to the baby while it’s in the womb; she may start reading books or get advice on how to be a mother if this is her first time.  When she is late in the pregnancy she may start going to classes that show her breathing exercises and how to properly deliver the baby. And when the baby is ready to be delivered the doctor has to make sure everything is sterilized before the baby comes out. What can we learn from this? We have to keep our faith and Move into the Spirit of expectation.

We all are in dire need of a blessing right now. Something is going on in your life that you have asked god to heal, forgive, watch over, remove, or bless you with something but I believe that some of us have become impatient because we just do not see our blessing coming. So we become angry and upset with God because he has not helped us. You say I’m angry with God. Well of course I don’t believe we sit around saying “God you Know I’m angry with you” but our dissatisfaction with life, our continuous bad attitudes, and our loss of faith is a sign of our anger with God.

The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan teaches us that when a baby cries it is his/her prayer. A baby doesn’t know how to call on God so it cries to call on the one God put in his place which is mother. Well many of us have children (or if you don’t have children you have little brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews) and if you have ever watch a child who playing with a toy and can’t figure it out or has a problem he/she can’t solve they will begin to cry ( which is their prayer). If no one comes to that child aid sometimes that child will cry until he has a headache or he may pick something up and throw it across the room to show his frustration. Well we are like children who have problems and cry out to the father and when we perceive that he hasn’t answered us we sometimes cry until we bring pain into our own lives or we walk around angry all the time.

The difference between us and children is that God demands us to be patient in order for us to receive an answer to our prayer. God knows that a baby does not have patience so when he/she first comes into the world and it begins to cry and by nature (Gods will) somebody is bound to answer. But we, as adult children of God, have to be patient and realize that God’s time is not our time. A baby takes 9 months to be produced. Regardless of when the mother is tired of being pregnant she has to wait until the baby is finished forming before she can bring it forth and it if comes to soon she may have complication and the baby may even suffer long term illnesses because of its premature birth. I have friends who have been pregnant and they go to the hospital thinking its time and the doctor will say he/she is not ready to come out yet. And sometimes the mother will induce the labor but we know that’s not safe. The baby comes when it’s ready not when you’re readyJ. Blessings come when they are ready not when we are ready. But we have to have faith that God will always be on time and he will never be late.

My friend asked me recently “do you know why wasp can’t make honey?” I said “why?” she said because “They never took the time to learn”. That’s a simple story but very relevant. We have to have patience and allow the fruit of our labor to grow or in this case the blessings of our prayer to come. Remember that Noah was in the middle of the hot desert building arc for a 120 years. I’m sure he wanted God to bring the rain he promised earlier but God knew that it wasn’t time yet. How patient was he? So in moving into the spirit of expectation we must first learn how to be patient.

The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan pointed out to us that in the scriptures it says “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” in his lecture the Minster said “All of us tend to believe in what we see, and that’s natural, but a belief in the unseen is the power of faith and through faith we can accomplish whatsoever we will. There is nothing that stands in the way of our progress but us.” We become our own enemy through our negative thoughts. Never say words like “I can’t”. God is the creator of all things and through him All things are possible (not Some things All things). Remember I said that when a woman is pregnant she abstains from all things that may be harmful to that baby. Well if you are expecting a blessing you have to stay away from those who are harmful to your blessing that means all negative people and pessimistic thoughts. In the Bible when God first gave Moses his mission the first thing that Moses said was I’m not a good speaker but God asked him who made your Mouth. So in moving into the spirit of expectation you must come to recognize the enemy in the mirror and in our own homes.

Sometimes we begin to lose faith that our blessing is coming when the results we want are not visible or it’s not in close sight. We find ourselves sad all the time, depressed all the time, we are pessimistic about everything, and we just kind of go through life with low spirits. But this is what we must understand struggle is ordained for anything that is worthwhile. When you go to work out you don’t expect to be in tip top shape without some sore muscles here and there (or maybe you do and that’s why you are not getting the results you want ). Everything that you have ever gotten, that was worthwhile, you had to work for. Well in waiting on your blessing from God he never said that it was going to be easy and he just said that it would come. In the book of Job God takes everything from him. His Children, crops, cattle, and even his friends and wife call him crazy but through it all he keeps his love for God and he get Blessed with twice as much as was taken from him. So in moving into the spirit of expectation you must come to a realization that struggle is predestined for us.

The next thing that we must do in order the move into the spirit of expectation is to sterilize or purity ourselves in order to birth the blessing in properly. Just as with the birth of a baby if we try to receive a blessing with an unclean vessel we can infect that blessing and cause it to die. Another issue is that we may not be able to receive our blessings because we can’t perceive our blessing. I heard this story one time it goes like this….

A man is sitting on his porch and he gets word that a storm is on the way. A police officer rides by the man house and says “hey we need to evacuate because there is going to be a flood” the man says “no I’m ok because God is going to save me” the police car drives off.

The storm comes and the flood come and the water gets higher so the man moves up the second floor of his house and a boat comes. The people in the boat say “hey come on we are going to take you to higher grounds where it is safe” the man says “no I’m ok because God is going to save me”.

The flood gets higher and the man moves to the roof of his house and a helicopter comes and says “ hey get in the helicopter we are going to take you to higher grounds” the man says “ no I’m ok because God is going to save me”

The man drowns and dies. He gets to heaven and ask God “Why didn’t you come save me” God said “I tried I sent a police car, a boat, and a helicopter”.

The moral of the story is that the man couldn’t perceive the blessing that God sent him. Now why couldn’t he perceive? I don’t know (maybe he was drunk or high.J) but whatever it was it was stopping him from seeing that God was blessing him. I see people all the time saying that they are waiting on their blessing and I always wonder has God already sent it and they  just missed it. So when having a baby the mother goes to the doctor regularly to get a checkup. Well we have to go to our doctor regularly too. Our doctor is God. We have to be stead fast in prayer, charity, and keeping our duty to God (Dust off that Bible or Quran ). So in Moving into the spirit of expectation you have to Purify yourself and make sure you are morally, mentally, spiritually, and physically clean.

The next thing needed is faith. Faith is belief without doubt. According to the Merriam Webster dictionary faith is allegiance to duty or a person; fidelity to one’s promises; sincerity of intentions; belief and trust in and loyalty to God; complete trust; something that is believed especially with strong conviction. Faith is keeping your loyalty to God through all the struggle, pain, opposition, obstacles, rainy days, foggy roads, restless nights, gloomy days, all the times you laughed to keep from crying or cried to keep from dying it’s the absolute spirit of expecting Gods promise to come to you. In the Bible When Jesus was on the boat with his disciples and the winds began to blow and rock the boat the disciples got scared and Jesus said “ye of little faith”. So in moving into the Spirit of expectation you must have unconditional faith.

But what’s the main point in moving into the spirit of expectation? Well if you are expecting a blessing what are you doing to prepare yourself to receive that blessing? You pray for a Million dollars but when you get it what will you do? You say I will start a business. Do you have a business plan now? You pray for God to bless you with your soul mate. Are you emotionally, financially, and spiritually ready for that mate. What will you do when you get it? See sometime God doesn’t bless us because he knows that we are not ready for it. And if we receive it too early we might mess it up. Can you see yourself receiving the blessing? Does it have a face? A name? A personality? A feeling? See this is all connected to the baby analogy because when you are expecting a baby you do all of the above. You name it. You buy gifts and thing it will need when it gets here. You prepare a room for it. But most of all you are expecting it. In the Bible the Children of Israel wondered for 40 years on a trip that only took 40 days because they couldn’t see their blessing. They couldn’t see themselves receiving the promise land from God. So in moving into the spirit of expectation you must be able to see the blessing.

For all of us out there who have a prayer that hasn’t been answered yet I’m asking us not to give up on God. Go back to Church, Mosque, Synagogue, or where ever your holy place of worship is. Stay loyal to him through the hardship. Stop walking around mad with a chip on your shoulder.   Then go start preparing yourself to receive your blessing. In fact act as if you already have it Move into the spirit of Expectation…

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So today I want to talk about why men cheat. But more important why do people cheat in general. At first I was very hesitate to Blog on this subject because it’s a very touchy subject but I will attempt to provide some light on the subject. I first would like to start off by saying nothing that I say in my Blogs is of me. I use what I have been taught by The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan and try to expand on what he teaches us and use it to give us advice on our everyday issues and problems. But at the same time if you are reading this and you are from my Christian family don’t stop reading this thinking that these teachings cannot also benefit you. The teachings of The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad are universal teachings that can resurrect the mind of any and every person Muslim, Christian, Hillel, Atheist, Black, Latino, Asian, or white. So I just wanted to let that be known before I start this Blog.

I don’t promise to give the perfect solution for this problem but I will provide insight that will allow us to think deeper then the surface. So why do people cheat? Let’s define cheating. Cheating is defined as to deceive by trickery; swindle; to deprive by trickery; defraud; to mislead; fool; to elude; escape. So when looking at these definitions it was easy to relate cheating in a relationship with deceiving, trickery, and misleading, but not elude. So I asked myself what are you trying to elude when you cheat in a relationship and also why? When I was younger I cheated on test to elude a failing grade. I also cheated in games to elude losing. But ultimately I cheated because I didn’t know how to pass or win. Could it be that we cheat in relationships because we don’t know how to have a successful one.

Let’s think about it for a second. When we first get into a relationship its fun, exciting, heart throbbing and just amazing. We can talk all day and night on the phone. We are always around each other. You laugh at every joke. But over time that slowly fades away. But if you notice that excitement come up with the new person they are with. We cheat the hard work of making and keeping that person in love with you just as they were when you first met them. But the real issue is we honestly don’t know how to have a relationship. We have no idea why we even what to be in a relationship. Which mean that most of our relationships are purposeless and anything that has no purpose is bound to fail.

So the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan said that we have never been taught the science of mating. When most of us hear this it may sound like I am comparing us to animals but let’s break down the definition to these words.

Science is defined as knowledge covering general truths or the operation of general laws especially as obtained and tested through the scientific method. A mate is defined as associate, companion; an assistant to a more skilled worker; helper. Mating is defined as; to join or fit together; couple; to join together as mates; to provide a mate for.

So when he says that we have never been taught the science of mating he is saying that we have never been taught the knowledge covering general truths of what a mate an associate, companion, or helper is. And we have never been taught the operation of general laws especially as obtained and tested through the scientific method how to join together with that companion or helper.

So the other day I was talking to a sister and she asked me should she get into a relationship with a guy and she was asking what I thought about him and I said I think he is a great brother ,But what is the purpose of you getting into a relationship. She asked me what did I mean I said what is your purpose for getting into a relationship with the brother. She said she had never thought about it. Why did I ask her that? Because everything that that we do has a why and that why sets a function for the action and the function provides expectations for the action.

Have you ever got into a car and just started driving for no reason? Have you ever started doing anything for no reason? No. everything you do has a purpose it has a why and that’s how you define the expectations of your actions. So right now I’m in college because I except to get a degree. I exercise because I want to be healthy. What if I took classes all year with no purpose? I would probably take classes that didn’t match , get tired of spending money on classes, start failing classed, and would eventually drop out. What if we get into a relationship with no purpose? We could be spending years with the wrong mate, then we would get tired of spending that time, start failing in the relationship, and eventually end up breaking up.

Let’s be honest most of us never had the birds and the bees talk. We learned about relationships from TV and movies. We learned from our friends who learned from their older brother. Ok maybe you watch that sex education video in school but how help was it in explain how to pick a mate. We was never taught the science of mating so even as grown men and women we have no idea on how to choose a mate so we find ourselves emotionally suffering.

This world uses movies, music, etc to stimulate a chemical in our body that causes us to desire the natural beauty of the woman and the nature beauty of the man. And they instill in us a false idea of what relationships should be like at a very young age. So you can see little girls and boys saying that my boyfriend and that’s my girlfriend but they have no idea the purpose of a mate.

And they grow up with no guidance or correction beside the music, the videos, and the movies. And they begin to think that because I am a boy I am suppose to get a girl and have sex with her. So you have 4 and 5 years children singing birthday sex. Because we have never been taught the science of mating most of us choose our mate based on sex only following our lower desires. Think about it for a second. How do you choose your girlfriend brothers? Do you think about if she is would be a good mother for your children, does she fit and support your life goals, or do you choose her because she looks good, because she has a big butt, and she has sex appeal.

Sisters do you pick a brother because you think he would be a good father to your children, will he be a good provider and maintainer for your children, does he have goals and dreams or do you pick him based off of his looks, popularity, or how he dresses, or the car he has . A sister said to me once why do I have to think that far I’m just looking for something right now. We call it dating. But we have to think that far because if you are not looking that far then your relationship has no purpose it has no why. Sex is not the purpose or why of your relationship. But that’s the only thing we think about. And the reason why our relationships don’t last is because you don’t have a why that is compatible to Gods why?

Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? We cheat because we don’t know our role as a man or woman in the relationship and we are failing every test, every trial, and every obstacle that comes our way and it makes our lives miserable so we cheat by finding a new person who will have the passion as the first mate did in the beginning. But winners never cheat and cheater never win so all that happen is you have more problems than you had before.

The problem starts off with the men. I’m sorry brothers but the Quran say that men are the maintainers of women not the other way around so if somebody has to be blamed it has to be us. We have to have more respect for our women.

The first thing we need to establish is that there is “No such thing as a No good women except the no good man that made her that way” THEM. The brothers are thinking that’s a lie I know a girl right now that’s bust down, runner, and other names. I’m sorry I had to use those words sisters don’t be offended but that’s how we talk sometimes. But the question I want to ask the brothers is was she born like that?

Our little girls are abandoned from birth. 62% of black families are headed by single mothers, and in this population we have more women than men, So more than likely our girls grow up without a father. She grows up without a father and from birth that little girl begins searching for the love and attention of a male because she lacks it growing up. When she hits prubity she starts to realize as her body begins to change that if she wears certain clothes if brings out certain attributes that boys and men will begin to pay a little more attention to. So go to an 8th grade class and pay attention to the girls. Their walk begins to change their posture begins to change and if you ever hang around older folks they will say something like this.

“Look at that lil girl being fast…. In all them men faces…”

And she will act like that because she is longing for a man’s attention and love because she has never received it.

Secondly our little girls are raped. I can’t tell you how many girls I talked to that have been molested when they were little. Remember 62% of black families are headed by single mothers. So there is no man to protect the girls from strange men. These mothers have men come to their house and will touch, fondle, or molested their daughters. Don’t believe me ¼ women will be raped before they hit 18.

These girls who have been raped have real emotional issues. Most of them suffer from extreme low self esteem they believe that it was their fault they got raped. They believe that the only way men will love them is if they have sex with them. So these girls are looking for love too.

How did we get to this point of being so savage? The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad said the 9/10 of the problems in black communities come from slavery so that’s one of the reason why. I know you probable like here he goes talking about slavery again but it’s the truth and it has to be said.

Have you ever read the Willie lynch letter? Well in the letter it says this:

Take the meanest and most restless nigger, strip him of his clothes in front of the remaining male niggers, the female, and the nigger infant, tar and feather him, tie each leg to a different horse faced in opposite directions, set him afire and beat both horses to pull him apart in front of the remaining niggers. The next step is to take a bullwhip and beat the remaining nigger males to the point of death, in front of the female and the infant. Don’t kill him, but PUT THE FEAR OF GOD IN HIM, for he can be useful for future breeding.

Why would the slave master make the women and infants watch? Women naturally look to their man for protection. Not any man but their man. She feels safe and secure in his presence. As a child we feel like our father can take anybody. He is our protector. You feel safe around him. For those of us you didn’t grow up with a father maybe it was an older brother. But when that male image is destroyed what happens is that woman has to begin to adapt to the current condition and she becomes strong. But the problem is that she raises her children that same way because she is afraid for her sons. And the results are strong and independent woman and a weak and dependent male.

Pause put a book mark in it.

Now at the same time this is happening because there is no protection for our women she is in the hands of the slave master. She has no rights. She couldn’t say no. she couldn’t say I don’t like you. She couldn’t say there is no love between us. He used her and breeded her like she was a dog or a horse. This was to break down her morals and break down our morals for her. So they called slave women broad, jizza bells, b words, and they use to say that all black women are over sexual and are whores and Promiscuous by nature.

They used us brothers a nothing more than sex driven animals and breeders. And he indoctrinated us with the same image of our woman that he had. That she was nothing more than a sex object.

So The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan said this “Now what did this do to us? Have we out grown the effect of this? NO, we are this same man and woman. I don’t care how we dress. The black man is doing the same thing today that was done in slavery. You love to have her. You love to make her pregnant. But you don’t love the responsibility of supporting what you make.”

So today we have men who are weak, dependent, over sexed animals. Making baby and continuing the cycle.

Am I telling truth?

We were never taught the science of mating we were trained to mate. You want to know why men cheat? Men cheat because we have been trained to follow nothing but their lower desire. That brother doesn’t care what’s on your mind. And sisters even though you act like you want him to care about what’s on your mind you dress to attract his lower desires. And when the next best things walks by him and he takes a glance you get mad. Did you really think he wouldn’t look? Seeing as though that how you got him. We have a sickness. The slave master is still controlling our mind.

So let’s bring it up to modern times. I started off with showing how there is no such thing as a no good woman except the no good man that made her that way. Most of our sisters are looking for love. This is why for us brothers who have ever taken a sister virginity before she opens herself up to you what question does she ask?

Do you love me?

You say yes because by this time it’s more blood in your head below then head up top.

She doesn’t offer herself to you because she wants to have sex. It hurts her the first couple times she only give herself to you because she thinks that is what will keep you loving her.

This is why girls become over sexual because we don’t even pay attention to the good girl. The sister that is chaste and waiting until marriage. The sister that covers herself up. And dress moderately. The sister that’s not at the club. Not getting down on the floor. We ignore her and you give all you attention to the sister that that walking around in the short shorts, in the spandex pants, and the sister getting down at the party.

And Sisters pay attention to that. They say ok the only way a get some attention from him is if I look like that. So they go to the store. By pants that are too tight. Even though it may cause problems in the long run, put on the stilettos that give you back problems, buy the shirt that shows the most cleavage. Then she gets dressed and looks in the mirror says this is what will get him. And she walks out into the world looking like a prostitute selling her body for attention, affection, and love.

Now if sisters are offended by what I just said I’m sorry but it’s the truth and somebody has to say it because every year it’s getting worse. The Minster said that the average woman at the club today looks like a prostitute of yesterday. And it really hurts my heart to see my sisters like that.

But this is the conclusion to this Blog we cheat because we have never been taught. The only way to pass is to go study how God would want us to have relations if we go any other way we will fail every time. Sisters please after reading this decided today to start respecting yourself. Don’t sleep with a man because of what he says. Don’t make him your boyfriend if you don’t have a defined purpose other than you feel lonely. And brothers start respecting women. Control your lower desires. Chose a woman for her mind and not her behind. And remember a nation can raise no higher then its woman. So the longer she is disrespected the longer we will suffer.

My Brother Treymains wedding

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The other day I was in Black Hawk talking to a brother about false pleasures. For those of you that are wondering what is Black Hawk it’s a project in Rockford. More like row houses if you from Chicago but since Rockford not that big they call it the projects. To set the scene it was two brothers and a sister. When I walked up the sister had a blunt in her hand (for those who may not know what I mean she was smoking marijuana) and she put the blunt up and apologized for being disrespectful in front of the Muslims. I told her it was fine because I didn’t fall from heaven either. I began to tell the sister that many of us are not happy so we have to find refuge in false pleasures. She asked me what I meant. So told her that the blunt in her hand was a false pleasure, alcohol is a false pleasure, and even sex is a false pleasure if done inappropriately. One of the brothers, who happen to have a beer in his hand, snapped. He said “I drink because I want to. I’m a grown man and I work hard all week so at the end of the day I deserve a beer or two. And how is sex a false pleasure when God made sex. If it wasn’t for sex you wouldn’t be here.” So today my post is going to be on the difference between happiness and false pleasure.

What is pleasure? Pleasure is defined as the state or feeling of being pleased or gratified. A source of enjoyment or delight; Amusement, diversion, or worldly enjoyment; Sensual gratification or indulgence; One’s preference or wish. What is your pleasure?

I used the phrase false pleasure so I must also define the word false. False is defined as: Contrary to fact or truth; deliberately untrue; Arising from mistaken ideas; intentionally deceptive; Not keeping faith; treacherous; Not genuine or real; Erected temporarily, as for support during construction. Resembling but not accurately or properly designated as such.

So a false pleasure is really something that seems to please us, it seems that we enjoy it, it seems to be our preference or wish, but in reality it is contrary to the truth, and really we have mistaken ideas of this pleasure, and it was made intentionally deceptive to make us believe in its pleasure. I was walking down 87^th street in Chicago and they had a billboard that had a picture of a Remy Martin bottle and a guy and a girl kissing and the sign read “Remy Martin now things are getting interesting” and I said wow they really make this stuff look like if I drink it I was have the best time of my life but I knew that it couldn’t be true because I had had Remy Martin before (many times) and that girl nor situation never happen to me LOL. So false pleasures are made deceptive to make us believe they will really make us happy.

What’s your pleasure? This pleasure seeking mentality we have comes from the fact that most of us are dissatisfied. In a world that’s ruled by Satan who can be happy besides Satan. The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad teaches us that the whole world is dissatisfied right now. In America the politician are failing us, the schools are failing us, the economy is failing us, and every where we look something is failing us and nothing is going our way or the way it should go. But when you re dissatisfied your natural instinct is to seek that which satisfies you or pleasures you. If something is hurting, you immediately seek something that will ease the pain.

Have you ever slammed you finger in the door the first thing you do is start waving your hand back and forth or you might put your finger in you mouth to put pressure on it. Have you ever been burnt by something hot the first u do is run to some cold water on it. But it’s not just us being hurt it’s also us being uncomfortable. Ever been hungry? You immediately look for something to eat. Ever walk into a room and it’s colder then you expected you start holding yourself to keep warm. You start rubbing your arming to make friction because friction causes heat and heat will ease your discomfort. Well so it is with life.

When ever we are dissatisfied, in pain, or just uncomfortable we seek that which makes us satisfied, eases our pain, or makes us comfortable. The Problem is most of either one don’t know what is wrong with us, two we know but to fix it is just too much work or we don’t know how to fix it, or three you are insane. I’m not a psychiatrist but some of us have some deep emotional issues. Maybe we had a messed up Child hood. We were picked on and nobody liked us. Maybe we didn’t have a good father or mother. Maybe it’s deeper. We may have been molested or raped as a child. But all of these things affect us if they are not dealt with properly. So you may wake up every morning mad at the world and have no idea why. Everybody gets on your nerves and everybody makes you mad. Nothing makes you happy.

These are the people that I’m talking about have no idea why they are mad. Many times they are mad at some traumatizing experience, but they have pushed it down so deep in themselves that they don’t think about it consciously but subconsciously its shows. An example is in my education class they teach us indicators that a student has been molested. They say they are children, who hate for you to touch them, or they are over sexual in talk and actions with other students, they also have a deep self hatred. So consciously you’re not mad at anyone but subconsciously you are mad at the world and it shows in your actions.

The second person is the person that knows why they are mad but changing is too hard. This is those of us who hate our job but won’t get another one. Those of us who hate our “baby mama” or “daddy” but know we got to put up with them for at least 18 years. This is those of us who feel like we let life pass us by because we made some stupid mistakes. We start to feel like we’re stuck between a rock and a hard place and we have no idea how to fix the mess we’ve gotten into. And the last one I said is insane. The definition of insanity is just doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

So when we find ourselves in a situation like this, where we are stress out, where do we turn “stress Relievers”. The cigarette, weed, the liquor, the sex, and even food. These are all things that give us pleasure and comfort for the moment. The thing that makes it a false pleasure is the fact that it doesn’t last long. It’s like when you give a baby a pacifier it will keep them quite for a second but after a while reality sets in.

Let’s think rationally here for a second. How much pleasure do we really receive from some the things we do? Weed? Weed is that which chokes the life out of the living. So in a garden, a gardener has to remove the weeds otherwise they will kill the plants. So when smoking weed we are really choking the life out of ourselves. Listen to how the Brother talks “I’m bout to get dead“. The brothers who sell it say “I got that kill”. So because we hate the life that we living so much and we are in so much pain we have to stay in a delusional mind, dead, and in an unconscious mind state praying with every puff that our eventual return is sped up. And cigarettes for those of us who don’t know. Recent studies show that every cigarette takes one day off of your life. And some of us smoke a pack or two packs a day. Once again praying for our return to come sooner than later. How much pleasure are you really getting?

Liquor? I use to drink a lot. And living on a college campus I see drinking a lot. It’s crazy that people brag about blacking out, passing out, or not remembering the previous night. Liquor is so poisonous that being drunk is really just your bodying being so poisoned that it can’t function properly. Its shoots straight to your brain cells and begin to make them in-responsive that’s why your speech slurs and actions slow down. It’s the same as when your computer catches a virus. Your body tries to warn you that it’s not natural to you by starting to vomit but we don’t listen. And at the point where you pass out is your body trying to save itself from death and it shuts down so you can’t poison it any more than you already have. Sometimes your body passes out to late and you may get alcohol poisoning. How much pleasure are you really receiving?

The false pleasure that people defend most is sex. Man at this day and age people are losing their virtue on average at 15-16 ( young men keeping your virginity is virtuous too) and really I’m being modest. But if you are not ready to accept the responsibility of sex it is not pleasurable. And most of us are NOT ready to except the responsibility of sex. The Minister Says that for a man sex is Contract that says from the point of my entry I vow to protect, maintain, provide, and basically put up with all the other stuff that come with it (but I’m not going to get deep into that maybe another blog). But most times when sex enters our lives we end up emotionally hurt, physically hurt, spiritually hurt, and morally hurt. Sisters end up with child with no fathers, brother end up with child they can’t take care of, both parties end up hurt, and even the child who is the third party who wasn’t even there when it happens. Ask yourself is the amount of pleasure that come from sex worth the amount of pain you will receive afterwards. Or even worse you get a package you can’t return because you didn’t know the person as well as you thought you knew them. So how much pleasure are you really getting?

In truth I could go on for days about this but the point is this. These things are false pleasure because if you were unhappy before the weed, liquor, and sex you are going to be unhappy after the weed, liquor, and sex. The only thing that you will accomplish is a habit that you can’t kick and a crave that you can’t curve. And more then likely that craving will get bigger. This year you only smoke one cigarette a day, or smoke one blunt, or only drink wine coolers, but three years later you’re at a pack a day, got to smoke in a rotation and a bathroom with the hot water running just to get higher, and you drinking a fifth of Hennessey. They say no high is like the first high. That because first time you actually thought things would get better after getting high then after you sobered up you realized things were actually worse so now u got to get higher the second time to run from the reality of the high before. Just killing your self slowly.

So the Quote I’m going to leave you with is from a book called a better you in 30 days.

“HOW CAN YOU BE TOO WEAK TO MAKE IT HAPPEN, BUT STRONG ENOUGH TO KEEP BEARING THE PAIN”?

So I think my next Blog will be on how to break these bad habits. There is a way. You don’t have to be unhappy forever you can change when you u feel like it.

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So now that we have figured out that you don’t know your purpose I guess you are wondering how do I find my purpose. First you have to submit yourself to God. I’m not going to get into religion but the reason why the animals know their mission is because they are still in tune with God. We have to summit our will to him that created us in order for us to understand our purpose. And once we get to know the one that created us we can question him to why he made us. We have to have some form of spiritual base to guide us. God must be first in everything we do. The Bible says “seek the kingdom first and all other things will be added unto you”. If we seek God first then the happiness will come second, because true happiness is the knowledge of self and God.

Secondly we have to give up the life of this world. What do you mean? You can’t find your purpose if you always high, drunk, sleep, lustful, and not in your right state of mind.  Your body and brain has to be fully operational for this to work. We have to understand that if we have a problem and we go drinking after we sober up our problems will still be there. Put down the poison and ask God to bless you with understanding who you are.

The Honorable Minster Louis Farrakhan said “All of us have the ability to be a vessel of God but that some of us are to dirty to be used.” God may never reveal our purpose to us because we are to dirty to accept it. I used the car example in my last blog so I guess I might as well use another car example in this one too. Well for those of us who know anything about cars, which I don’t know a lot, we know that all cars have spark plugs. The spark plugs are what catches spark to start your car when you turn the key. Now, sometimes if your spark plugs are old, too oily, or too dirty your spark plugs won’t spark and your car will have trouble starting. You may have to try to start your car two or three times before it will start and sometimes your car won’t start at all…Right? We’ve all been there before; sitting out side pumping the gas turning the key…Nothing…Pumping the gas turning the key…nothing…Lol. I hope you understand the example. Well the same applies to you and me.

Our spark plugs are our minds. Every time we try to start something up in our lives we just cant get it off the ground. No matter how hard we try pumping the gas, which is motivating ourselves, we just can’t seem to get started. In life we are the car and God is the driver. But he can’t drive us to where we need to be if our spark plugs are dirty if our thoughts are not pure and clean. If our mind is not pure and clean we just don’t have the same drive as a new car Lol.

Now don’t get me wrong we all have a little dirt on us but just like we take our car to the mechanic for a tune up we should take ourselves to the master mechanic for a tune up too. This all goes back to my first step of knowing God. Life is just like your car, you start seeing that your car has problems and its time to get it fixed. Do you take it to the dealership to get fixed? Well some of us who have money or a warranty will but most of us call a guy that knows a guy, or a cousin, or the dude down the street who fixes cars.   We do that because we can’t afford to take it to the dealership they cost too much. But that cheap mechanic will get it running, but 3 months later something else is wrong because it wasn’t fixed right or they didn’t know everything that was wrong.

Now let’s look at life. God is like the dealership. He is the one that created us. He knows every thing about us. He has all the special tools to fix us and has all the special parts needed. He knows what’s wrong before you know. But just Like the dealership God is too expensive. Not Money but sacrifice. Coming to God to fix our problems may cost us the partying, drinking, smoking, inappropriate sex, the lives that we love so much. So what do we do we go to an alley mechanic, which may be a motivational book, speaker, a close friend, or even a pastor if you don’t move to God after him. And they get us started for the moment but 3 months later we got another problem. We have to realize that we get what we pay for. So if you want to get on that right path try God First. Now I now you are probably thinking of all the famous people you know who don’t put God first and they are successful. The scriptures tell us that God will give the wrong doers success for a short while then will afflict them. So if you notice most stars don’t stay as rich and famous as they are for long. In fact most of them die in debt and in stress. That brings me to my next point.

The third step is redefining happiness. All humans need a few essential things to be happy: food, shelter, and security. The security part is tricky and that’s where the delusions comes in because in security what we are really saying is “I want to be comfortable” and comfort is a state of mind. And when we say “I want to be comfortable” what we are saying is that we want to fit in or be seen as the elite or prestige in this world. So it’s UNcomfortable for us to drive an inexpensive car because if you drive a Benz you look better. It’s UNcomfortable for us to shop at cheap clothing stores because if you have on Gucci or Prada, or Versace you look better even if the outfit in the cheap store looks exactly the same.

Now some of us can argue that we buy expensive clothes and cars and jewelry because it is better material which is true. But that’s not the reason majority of us want it. How do I know? Because most of us wanted it when we were children because on television that’s what they showes us was true happiness. It’s the same today if you have a nice car or nice house you must be happy , so that’s what children base they goals off of, as if the person with the small house and cheap car is depressed, When really it just might be the opposite. While at the career day I ask a boy what he wanted to be when he grew up he said I don’t know but I want to be a millionaire. Our lives are based on material wealth and that’s what we base our happiness on. So we have to redefine our perception of happiness.

My sister Toby asked this in my last post: “Could it be that what makes us happy changes like the phases we go through? Maybe there isn’t just ONE thing that defines happiness to individuals. Maybe happiness is not well defined. Happiness is just an emotion that definition changes for us. Maybe there is nothing that will KEEP you happy for more than a season. “

I told her that we must learn the difference between pleasure and happiness. I will post that in my next blog. But for short, pleasure gives us joy for the moment. It’s like when you’re sad and you eat ice cream it give you pleasure for the moment but its just instant gratification and it doesn’t last for long. This is actually a good indicator that you haven’t found your purpose. Your purpose may never change but your understanding of that purpose will always change. At ten you may just like to play doctor. At 20 you may want to be a doctor. At 40 you may discover the cure for a known disease. In this case your purpose never changed but your understanding of that purpose grew as you grew.  Its not at 10 you play doctor, at 20 your want to be a police officer and at 40 your are a truck driver. That shows a person who doesn’t know they want to do. A good example of purpose development I told my sister is Michael Jackson. You see the change in his music from a child all the way to death.

The fourth step is exploration. When you start on your journey of purpose many times it’s not going to come to you right away. You have to explore and see what fits you and what you like and don’t like. Its like when you play sports, in the beginning all you know is that you like sports. So your parents put in basketball, football, soccer, hockey, and baseball but by the time you get to high school you may say I only like basketball and baseball but you had to explore the other one to see which one best fits you. So it is with life. On your journey you may find you love to write but you have to explore poetry, fiction, research papers to see what best fits you.

The best advice I have ever heard was “just do it”. My Minster in Rockford Bro. Yahcolyah has heard me go through a million ideas. I always come to him and say I have a new idea what do you think. He tells me every time “just do it”. He told me that many of us spend too much time thinking and not enough time doing. Don’t sit on an idea for years just because you don’t have all the particulars. Just Plan to the best of your ability and jump in. You can adjust as time goes on and learn from your mistakes. It’s a book, not sure the name, but it interviewed people who were millionaire before they were 30. All of them started at least 17 other businesses or had 17 other jobs before they found the one that was a winner. When asked did their other 17 businesses fail they said no they were just learning experiences. Don’t be afraid of failure. Every failure is just one step closer to success.

I was talking to my Niece she read my last blog and she asked me “Are you sure everybody has a purpose? Because some of these people I see on the street and standing on the corner can’t have a purpose in life.” I told her yes everyone has a purpose in life. Just because a person is strung out on drugs or has become a alcoholic doesn’t mean that they don’t have a people. That only means they were side tracked a little harder then most of us. All of us are side track by something it’s just that some of us are affected more then others.

My point in saying that is no matter where you are in life right now it doesn’t mean you can’t go out find your purpose and be success at it. The problem is most of give up because we believe it is too late. It’s never too late to be happy as long you are still breathing!!!

Well I think I’m over my time limit I have much more to say but I don’t want you here all day. I hope that I have helped you on your path to finding purpose and Ecstasy.

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So I was talking to one my friends and she just graduated from college and now she is having a hard time finding a job. But even more stressful than not having a job is the fact that she doesn’t really know what she wants to do in life. She graduated with a degree but she realized that’s not quite what she wants to do.  She has working in hospitals, schools, restaurants and all types of places but she doesn’t really like any of them. So I asked her “what do you think your purpose in life is?”  She said” That’s a good question.”

I have come to realize that most of us do not know our purpose in life. What is purpose?  In study guide 21 the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan asks that same question only he asked what it means to be happy.  He says this:

“Don’t you want to be happy? I hear so many people talking about happiness, so I questioned—not the dictionary—I questioned myself. I said, “Well, what is happiness?” Happiness comes when a person understands their purpose for existence and then they fulfill that purpose. When one fulfills his or her purpose in life, the soul is satisfied. That soul has unspeakable joy!”

Then it hit me purpose is defined by happiness.  If the only time you are truly happy is when you have found your purpose then we can define our purpose by what makes us happy. Now this is the tricky part because we have to ask ourselves what exactly makes us happy. Now most people would say a nice car would make me happy. A big house would make me happy. Nice clothes would make me happy. But if that was so why do we have millionaires taking depression medicine it must be something deeper then money and material. The Minister says that “Every human being should be able to pursue that which makes that individual happy, but in the world we are living in, we all have the illusion of happiness.”

Could it be that we don’t even know what real happiness is? What is happiness?  In my trusty Merriam-Webster dictionary it says that happiness is a state of well being. So the Minister asked us “are you really happy?” Or is your being well? In today’s society honestly how many of us are really happy. All of us are sick, tired, worn down, washed up, and just dissatisfied.  And it’s all because growing up we was taught to look for a job but not look for our purpose.  The Minister says we are so unhappy that we just keep busy so we don’t have to think about it. The Minister says this is how we sound:

“I’ll work hard all week long. Oh boy! I can’t wait ‘til Friday! TGIF. Thank God it’s Friday. I can go to that place and eat some greasy food. And I can go to the liquor store; get me a quart or a pint, you know? Or, I can go to the reefer man. And bring my friends to the crib. To the crib! Where we babies, who don’t know our purpose in life, can play games, and flit away our time on the Earth, drunk, delusionally happy. Waking up with a headache on Monday to go back and do the same thing over and over and over again.”

Because we don’t know our purpose, we are so sad, down, and depressed. Have you ever seen a depressed bird, bee, flea, duck, or any other animal? Wouldn’t it be crazy to see a bird commit suicide because life just isn’t worth it? We probably say that because animal are not smart enough to know they are depressed. Well they’re smart enough to find food, build a home, and take care of their family without having domestic violence in the nest Lol. The animals have mastered all the things we struggle with so they must not be that dumb.  How are we the best of God’s creations yet the most troubled?  It’s because we don’t know our purpose. The reason why bees don’t stress and ants don’t stress and birds don’t stress is because they know exactly what they are here for.  Stress comes from a lack of duty.

Example is like what if a pick up truck was in a NASCAR race even if the pick up truck won it would probably break down at the end of the race because it’s not a race care. And to flip that example what if the NASCAR was used to carry brick on a construction site even if the NASCAR made it to the destination the NASCAR would break down because that’s not its purpose. So here you and I are. We are lawyers, doctors, accountants, or what ever you do,  even if you make partner as a lawyer become the top doctor of your time you are worn down ,stressed out ,and my end up leaving this life early because that wasn’t your purpose.

Somebody once told me that when you find what you love to do you never get tired of doing it. You can’t sleep at night because you are excited to do it. And most of al it’s not stressful. So once you find your purpose you never get tired of doing it, you’re not looking forward to retirement or counting down the years. You can’t wait to wake up in the morning, most us hate getting up in the morning. Going back to the animals isn’t it funny how the birds wake up every morning faithfully with no alarm clock. When you found your purpose in life every night feels like when you were a child in 4^th or 5^th grade and you had a field trip in the morning, you could barely sleep that night before and wasn’t tired the next day either.  And most importantly once you find your purpose you are not stressed out!!

I spoke at a career day at Earl elementary school back in May and there were four or five speakers. One brother was a physicist and another sister was a nurse and there was two more sisters there but I can’t really remember exactly their titles but anyway we were all talking and fellowshipping and what not. And I ask the two sisters, who I can’t really remember what they did ironically enough, do they love what they do. They answered well I like it better then my last job. I said no do you love what you do. She said no. I asked “well why are you doing it?” She said well because it pays well. I asked are you happy. She said well I’m content. And ask what would she rather be doing she answered and said she wanted to open up a group home for teenage girls. Wow. It was a long way away from her current job.

See the Minister said that a slave can never be happy. You say I’m not a slave. No not with physical chains but a slave is just somebody held capture against his/her own will. So you and I have been held in a world that gives us a fake understanding of happiness and never shows us how to find our purpose. We are given standards of happiness and told that if we don’t have these things you must be unhappy.  They hold us capture with television, radio, magazines, and everything that we can see and touch.

So I don’t want to make this to long but I want you to go look for your purpose and not your next job. I will post in a few days how to find your purpose and we can move forward from there. I hope I helped somebody today.

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